Women who use craigslist to find dates

Ladies, before you write that craigslist ad...

It's good that you're putting an ad on craigslist. Women should put themselves out there in online personal ads just like men do. Well, not just like men. But reading through many W4M ads, it seems some women are potentially missing the boat.

I found his true love on CL almost 4 years ago (CE if you must know). I'd like to share a few things that will make your search more fruitful. Here are examples of want not to do in a craigslist W4M ad. I repeat: these are bad examples.

First of all you're running and "ad" not an "add". While we're on the subject, run your CL post through a spell checker. Ignorance ain't sexy. In fact it's a real turn off. If you can't spell, your more likely to fuck ignorant men. Your choice.

CAPITAL LETTERS ARE THE ONLINE EQUIVALENT OF SHOUTING. DON'T YELL AT ME!

Good men come in all shapes and sizes which means not all good men are 5'10" or taller. In fact, the man of your dreams may be shorter than you. Even though I'm not height challenged I think the taller-than-me-or-else requirement is incredibly shallow.

Be honest. If you're not HWP, don't lie. Any hope you have of proving you're greater than the sum of your parts is lost when a man discovers you misrepresented yourself. On a related note, if you're not HWP what right do you have to demand that your dream date be fit, trim, toned, athletic, etc.?

Pictures. Men what to see you just like you want to see them. Don't fool yourself, looks are important. Otherwise women wouldn't request a cute guy. Post a current picture that accurately represents you look like today. I'll never forget meeting someone and being shocked how little she resembled the photos in her ad. No man wants to see you next to an unidentified male companion. Yes, we can tell when you've chopped off half of a photo. His arm is still visible around you. And no we don't want to guess which woman you are in a crowd scene. In fact, we may be more attracted to the cutie to your left. Digital cameras are ubiquitous. Find one and use it. And no, I don't want to click on an ad that has a photo only to discover it's your cat, a sunset, or some cheesy animated GIF.

Cats. Speaking of cats. Most guys can overlook one cat, IF it's not named something stupid like Mr. Wiggles, Bugsy or Auntie Em. Post a photo with multiple cats and/or pose with them like they're your overindulged children and you deserve the kind of responses you get. Trust me, the responses will be weird like you.

False advertising "I put a picture of myself online showing off my ample cleavage but all the men who responded just want to have sex." Duh...

We all have reasons to be bitter. I'll make you a deal: keep your negativity to yourself and I won't burden you with mine. I'll do you one better: make me laugh and I'll respond in kind. We all have laundry lists of yes's and no's. Project a positive vision and you just might find what you're looking for.

Yes as a woman you're going to get flooded with responses to any ad you post. But at least if you consider some of the points above, you may help the one you're looking for recognize and appreciate you.

Good luck!